Sex therapist Amanda Robb and sexologist Giverny Lewis come to the rescue...

Help! My boyfriend's penis is too big

I hate to sound ungrateful, but I think my man’s penis might be too big. Is this possible, and how can we work around it?

Penises are like televisions: they can never be too big. So espouse underwear billboards, sealed sections and a new Australian study published in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Science.

When it comes to attractiveness, being well hung is up there with height, researchers reported. What’s more, a study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found that women who had frequent vaginal orgasms tended to count a long shlong as a not-so-hidden asset. But supersize can also be an, erm, sticking point.

According to Giverny Lewis, NSW-based sexologist and blogger from Notes to Virgins, physical factors can work against the well-endowed. “Whether a penis is ‘too big’ is very subjective and depends on a huge range of cultural, personal and physical factors,” she says.

Consider this: while the average Aussie male’s penis measures 5.2 inches (13.2 centimetres), according to a study by Ulster University psychology professor Dr Richard Lynn, the average vagina measures just three inches (7.5 centimetres), stretching to four inches (10 centimetres) when aroused.

The problem

While your va-jay-jay will stretch to accommodate any size visitor, a long load can hit your cervix (think semi-trailer ramming a Getz), potentially causing pain for both of you.

The solution?

Change positions. “If you allow your partner to go ‘on top’, it means they can guide the depth and pace of penetration,” says Lewis. Other ways to dodge the missile effect are missionary style and lying on your sides so “you can talk to each other and work together to find the right rhythm and angle”.

What not to do

“Avoid doggy style or anal sex, which can be particularly uncomfortable with a larger penis, as there is deeper penetration and risk of painful injury.”

Giv’s quick tip: Remember to use plenty of lubrication, warm up with some fingering and/or oral sex, and make sure you’re relaxed and ready. Remind yourself that slow and steady wins the race!

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